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Please understand that it’s a very small percentage of potential clients & TER members who engage in fanatic/stalker-like behavior.  But the creepers here definitely give the site a bad rep and make many providers reluctant to participate.

Now, there is nothing wrong with admiring a lady from afar, perhaps following her on Twitter,  Liking her Photo Only Board pics, reading her posts here or her own blog, and occasionally checking her personal website for any new pics or updates…… even if you  never book a date.     The problems begin to arise when one starts sending messages.  She responds, the two of you strike up an ongoing conversation?  Great!  Just don’t expect too much of her time if you aren’t looking to book a date. If you send her a compliment (or any chatty message) and she does not reply?
That might be a hint.
Some ladies consider any communication that is not an appointment request to be a waste of her time.

If you continue sending such messages, without any encouragement from her, you might change her impression of you from “timewaster” to “creeper” or even “potential stalker”.   Don’t do that. ;-) Many providers are not only on their guard for stalkers, we’re also jumpy and quick to shut down/block/Ignore someone who even slightly gives us that vibe.
Why?  Because it’s just not worth the risk.
Of course, some people escalate from sending PMs & DMs to writing comments on her blog or  even on her message board posts.  Every time she writes something, there this guy is chiming in….  such actions can start to feel as though he’s deliberately letting her know he’s watching her.   This can be intimidating and even cause the lady to alter her writing/posting habits.  She might not be nearly as active in posting (or only use her alias) and stop adding her pics to the Photo Only altogether.   Let me be clear: it shouldn’t EVER get to that point! She doesn’t want to communicate with you?  Let it go!  Don’t keep pestering her. She turned you down for a date?  It doesn’t matter what the reason is/was and quite frankly, she doesn’t owe you an explanation.  Continuing to repeatedly peruse her blogs, comment on every one of her posts or tweets, and other lovesick-puppy type behavior is NOT COOL.   If a lady is not responding to what you may think are innocent compliments & comments: STOP.  Please just STOP.

Of course, some people escalate from sending PMs & DMs to writing comments on her blog or  even on her message board posts.  Every time she writes something, there this guy is chiming in….  such actions can start to feel as though he’s deliberately letting her know he’s watching her.   This can be intimidating and even cause the lady to alter her writing/posting habits.  She might not be nearly as active in posting (or only use her alias) and stop adding her pics to the Photo Only altogether.   Let me be clear: it shouldn’t EVER get to that point! She doesn’t want to communicate with you?  Let it go!  Don’t keep pestering her. She turned you down for a date?  It doesn’t matter what the reason is/was and quite frankly, she doesn’t owe you an explanation.  Continuing to repeatedly peruse her blogs, comment on every one of her posts or tweets, and other lovesick-puppy type behavior is NOT COOL.   If a lady is not responding to what you may think are innocent compliments & comments: STOP.  Please just STOP.
Now we get to where a provider has blocked a person, yet he still contacts her another way.

“Oh, she is Ignoring me?  Well, then I’ll just email her directly!”
“She won’t see me?  I’ll start PMing her reviewers for more Juicy Details!”
“She blocked me on Twitter?  OK, now I have a new account to follow her with!”
These are examples of when you have CROSSED THE LINE.     No ifs ands or buts about it: if you are doing or have done these things then you are official “THAT GUY”.
I tried to keep this post a bit simplistic, but I sincerely hope others (especially other providers) will join in with more examples.

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